It seems Ontario has decided so export some of their winter weather this way, as we've had sub-zero temperatures for three nights (down to -5 last night) while my hometown of London, Ontario was at +12 yesterday.
Eleven guests spent the night with us last night, including one woman with her partner, plus two more who dropped in for a while: "Roy" who walked over with "Bud" , wanting to make sure his friend made it safely to the shelter and a fellow who didn't plan to stay with us, but asked if he could stay for a meal. "Roy" isn't housed, but he prefers to bunker down in his own corner of the world -- it used to be in a washroom, but now a stairwell in a building with a friendly landlord who allows him to spend his nights there. All he wanted was a pair of socks ("white, please") and off he went.
In addition to a near-full house of guests, our supporting cast brought the total to over twenty people who gathered together for the evening: volunteers Richard, Jiff and Dave prepared a fantastic meal under Grace's guidance (shepherd's pie -- that one guest said could be on the menu in any restaurant -- he had three platefuls of it, plus bread pudding made with blueberries and topped with custard). Jean and Dianne dropped by to socialize and Dianne also brings her nursing skills into practice. Rounding things out were staffers Hugh and Anneliese (who brought her dog Luna) and me. The atmosphere was warm and cordial and it felt good to be there.
Many of our guests know each other from the street, and this generally contributes to the pleasant ambiance (although they aren't all best buddies). We have a few guests who are new to the shelter this year (and some new to being homeless) and all have found their comfort zone, which is great to see.
Earlier in the day, a group of girl guides dropped off about thirty pairs of jeans they'd collected for the shelter. This is the second year in a row they've come by with gifts -- last year they made mittens and delivered them. When they asked what they could do this year, I suggested a used jean drive as our guests are always looking for jeans -- their pants often get soiled and wet and jeans are hard to dry, but it's the pants of choice for most folks, including people who are homeless, so that's what we get them. The guides created display boxes and placed them at local community centres, then rounded them up and brought them in.
I toured the girls around, showed them the sleeping/dining hall, the mats and pillows and blankets and the kitchen, explained what we do, who comes to the shelter, how much the jeans will be appreciated by our guests -- especially knowing they were collected by a group of girl guides. It is so wonderful when children show they care through these purposeful acts of kindness. And by placing boxes in community centres, it spreads the word that we have many people in need in our community. Dave and I labelled all the jeans with sizes while most of our guests crowded around for a pair. Everyone found a pair that fit them.
We also took down the Christmas tree down (in about a tenth of the time it took to put it up), persuaded it back into its box and hauled it over to its storage place in the back of the church. Christmas and New Year's isn't a great time of year for many of our guests, many of whom are estranged from their families, so for them it's a time to get back to a more normal season. One of our new guests saw his two daughters over Christmas -- first time in fifteen years -- and he was very grateful for that. He's been living out of his car for the last while after his business collapsed (and another guest, who's 67, is living out of his van) and will be looking for work starting tomorrow. He's one of those people who has a positive outlook on life and he's hopeful that 2013 will be better than last year.
And that sums up my simple wish for all of our guests -- that this year will be better than last. You might think that someone who spent 2012 homeless would have a good chance of having a better year this year (what could be a worse?) but change is hard, as anyone who sets New Year's resolutions will attest and especially hard for someone stuck in a lifestyle that involves homelessness. As a person who is homeless and destitute, even if you do decide to make a change, how do you make it happen? How do find a job or a home or reunite with family, when you are starting with so little? How to you keep hopeful?
I wish I had the answers. For now, I hope our shelter is providing some respite, some nourishment, some comfort and rest, some companionship, some love, some hope that things can and will get better.
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