Last night, one of our new volunteers, Sandra, arrived with two garbage bags full of empties to hand over to our guests. It had just started snowing, so it was perfect timing, as the chore of collecting empties is tough enough in good weather. I stored the empties overnight and in the morning brainstormed with staffers Frank and Hugh how best to allocate the loot. It's always tricky to determine how to divvy up stuff like this, but we decided we'd give one bag to the veteran early birder and the other to a new fellow who had just spent his first night ever at a shelter.
Bike loaded up with a bag of empties |
The rookie had been working for 10 years at the same place but had been laid off and fell on some hard times recently. He came in looking disshevelled and bewildered, telling us the RCMP told him it was a good shelter and he asked permission to stay the night. He had been called back to work starting in the morning, needed a good night's sleep and had to leave at 5:30 am, so we added "wake up calls" to our inventory of shelter services. He hadn't shaved in a couple weeks so was happy to see a razor in the Red Cross hygiene kits we hand out to newbies. He needs a car to get to work and had enough gas to get him there, and when we offered him the bag of empties, he was very thankful, as this would probably give him enough fuel to get him back to the shelter tonight and to work again tomorrow. He left before breakfast, but woofed down some instant porridge, part of a large donation of porridge, coffee and pastries from Starbucks and set off with a bag lunch made by Kay.
At the shelter, we hear lots of stories about why people need things (bus fare, pain pills, etc). You never really know who's telling the truth and who's shooting you a line. But you learn to trust your gut instinct and lessons learned from similar encounters. I was happy with where the empties ended up today. Thanks to Sandra, we eased a veteran through another day -- hopefully another day closer to sobriety -- and gave a rookie a hand up that might be enough to get him quickly back on his feet, employed, and with a place to live. Maybe one day, one or both of these guys will be playing that party game where you say three things, only one of which is true and people have to guess which one is true, and they'll say "I once stayed in a homeless shelter". I wonder if people will guess.
What a nice thing to read at the end of the day. Puts a smile on my face and a warm spot in my heart. thanks
ReplyDeletejoanne
Great to hear. Your comment did the same for me. -- Larry
ReplyDeleteI know it was done out of the goodness of your hearts, however we are doing the homeless no favour by giving them empties, which they can exchange for cash.
ReplyDeleteTo give them what they need, i.e. love, shelter, food, clothing, bustickets, etc.
would be more beneficial.
A Supporter of the Shelter.
Hi Shelter Supporter,
ReplyDeleteThanks for giving voice to a concern that I'm sure is shared by others. Sometimes we face these moral dilemmas and you can't be 100% sure you've done the right thing. First, let me clarify that I didn't mean to imply that all of our shelter guests are addicts or alcoholics. They are not. Some are just down on their luck (or just kicked out by their husband as was the case of one woman), some suffer from mental illness and some are all or none of the above.
And bear in mind that there's not a huge difference between giving people cash or giving them empties, food, clothing or bus tickets as just about anything can be sold for cash. (At the beginning of the season, we handed out brand new winter gloves to our guests. The next day, three of them came back asking for another pair as they'd "lost" them -- turns out at least one was telling the truth, as we found them at the shelter.) Also, for those who are addicted or suffer from alcoholism, no matter what we give them or in what form, or if we give them nothing, they will feed their habits somehow -- through working, theft, prostitution, collecting empties, panhandling, etc. And not 100% of every dollar an addict receives goes to their habit, they do buy food (say at Bob's subs or a coffee at McDonald's), parts for their bikes, etc.
With respect to the two bags of empties we gave out, I'd say there was a 95% chance that most of the first bag went to alcohol and a 95% chance the second went for fuel for his car to get him to/from work. But you never know for sure.
Whenever you offer something to someone who's stuck in addiction or homelessness, you face the risk that you are enabling them to continue to be stuck. That includes offering shelter. Some argue that by providing people shelter and food and clothing, we are just allowing them to continue in their addiction and allowing them to use their monthly welfare/social assistance cheques on drugs/alcohol, rather than the necessities it's intended for.
Bottom line, it's a personal choice and you have to weigh the pros and cons of giving something to a shelter guest (or a stranger or a family member) to determine when you helping them, when you are enabling them to continue their lifestyle, when you are expressing confidence in their ability to make responsible decisions with the money.
I respect your choice that you would not have given empties to our shelter guests. It's not a policy of the shelter to give empties, I might do it differently next time, but in this instance I feel it was the right thing to do.
Finally, thanks so much for signing off as "A Supporter of the Shelter" -- there are some in our community who oppose shelters in general and ours in particular.
-- Larry